Rantings of a Work Wife

I'm not pro-marriage or against it. Which sounds weird coming from a married woman I'm sure. I'm just all about healthy relationships. The person you choose should be as good for you as you are for them. A man and a woman could live together for years without a marriage certificate, build a home, raise children and whether they "make it official" they are living a shared life. The men in that type of situation who claim "they are not ready for marriage" don't realize they are already in the thick of it. If they decided to part, the separation won't be any easier because they didn't legalize it. They have mortgages, child car pool responsibilities, bills, and social affiliations. That fool is neither single nor unattached whether they had the party or not. And there are people who marry but truly lead separate lives. Separate apartments, separate bills, separate lovers. All I want is a truly healthy relationship, where we both work hard for shared goals and enjoy some leisure time in between. It's so simple to say but so hard to achieve.